boymeetsgirl

In my opinion being divorced and dating is extremely challenging.  One of the reasons is because divorced people know how to be married, they usually don’t know how to date.  Dating is totally different. 

Well, you might say, a divorced person had to date in order to get married.  But even though this is true, being in that long term relationship regardless of its length adjusts your thinking and you become used to thinking in a couple way instead of a single person’s way.  Coming out of the safe haven of a marriage into the unpredictable world of dating with that mentality will get you hurt!

Since I am a woman I can only speak from my point of view, but if you are used to being a wife and you suddenly start dating someone you might read more into the relationship then there is.  You may feel you have to make every relationship work and put up with things you don’t need to.  Get over it!

When you are just dating you have to keep your wits about you and not get in too deep too fast.  Establish guidelines and rules on the ways you want and expect to be treated and stick to them.  Don’t feel obligated to try to make a person fit into your life if they don’t qualify.  If it doesn’t work out or if you just don’t like them try not to get into the mindset there is no one else out there.  That just is not true.

Remember you are a great person and there will always be someone else waiting in the wings.