boymeetsgirl

First of all, let me just say, realizing that a guy that you really like and want doesn’t feel the same way about you sucks!  Big time.  But the fact of the matter is no matter how hard we try to make him change his mind, we won’t.  In fact, the more we try, the more we may push him away.  So, instead of going into major crisis mode when a guy doesn’t like you as much as you like him try these ideas out first.

1.  Stop making excuses for him.  If he hasn’t called, he hasn’t called because he doesn’t want to call.  As frustrating as that is, its the truth.  If he used to call but he doesn’t call now–he has shown you that he does have the ability to do so.

2.  If you have messed up with this guy and scared him away.  Ooops!  Learn from it and move on.  We have all made mistakes.  Personally I have felt like a school girl in my dating experiences.  I have misread signals from guys and went full force in hot pursuit of love–making them run for cover.  I have called too much, sent crazy text messages, had sex too soon, spent money I shouldn’t have…Trust me, the list goes on.  But, I try and you should try too, to learn something with each new relationship.

3.  Take the time to love yourself.  There is an empty space left when someone disappears from your life.  Its that open area that bites!  We hate the void.  And so its hard not to react in compulsive ways to try desperately to fill that place back up.  We want to feel what we felt when he was into us.  We want him to call, to text, to something!  But for whatever reason, he doesn’t and since we do not control his mind we can’t make him.  Its better to do something good for ourselves–give what we would give to him back to ourselves.  Sometimes when we do this he comes around wanting to know why we haven’t called, etc.  Sometimes he doesn’t. 

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